Desire Source

Benefit: Better decisions
Prerequisites: objectivity

Description

Desires can be grouped in many ways. An easy way of grouping would be external vs internal.

An external desire is obtained from external sources and will cease to exist when the source goes away. Internal desires usually take decades to form thus are not expected to go away easily. Each desire has a trigger. When run into it, the desire will be activated.

Knowing where the desire comes from, helps us take control of our decisions.

Pursuing internal desires is better than external desires due to compounding effect. The external desire might fade away leaving us hating the thing that we’re doing whether that thing is a job, a hobby or a business. On some occasions it might be beneficial for us to pursue the external desire. By understanding it we can put ourselves in situations where we are exposed to that thing more making sure the desire continues.

Practice

  1. Write down a desire you have
  2. Write down all the possible places you could have obtained that desire
  3. Write down ways that might make the desire go away

Example 1

  1. Creating a shopify startup in Singapore
  2. The auntie having a hard time selling her food from whatsapp
  3. When I stop talking with the auntie my desire to solve that problem goes away

Example 2

  1. Creating dance videos
  2. Watching my friends dance videos on instagram & tiktok
  3. When I unfollow those friends my desire goes away

Sources

Mimetic freedom: You don’t pick up desires watching others